Important Conversations | Six Pro-Assisted Living Talking Points

There’s no doubt about it— when it comes to stressful life events, moving is almost as anxiety-provoking as divorce or death of a spouse, especially when it’s relocating an older adult to an assisted living community. Even though the move may make sense in terms of safety and security, many older adults feel grief about moving from a much-loved home and neighborhood into an unfamiliar environment.

At Arcadia Assisted Living, residents have the best of both worlds. They have independence, for a self-sufficient living experience and the assurance that care is available when it’s needed. For many seniors, assisted living provides exactly the level of care they need to thrive in the next phase of their lives. If you or your family are struggling to have a meaningful conversation with one another or a loved one needing additional care, here are our talking-point recommendations. Our staff is here to help.

#1 Start with needs, fears and hopes

Although you may be anxious to focus on practical matters, the transition will go more easily if you spend some time talking to your aging loved ones about their needs, fears and hopes. Once you’ve acknowledged and (hopefully) addressed any concerns about moving, have a conversation that centers around the benefits of assisted living—like living in a community and having easy access to new activities and events. If you can help your parents see a move as a positive transition, you’ll be off to a good start.

#2 Talk To Your Doctors

If one or both of your parents have significant health concerns, deciding on the best kind of community is a medical decision as well as a personal one. If your parents’ family physician cannot evaluate them and make a recommendation, ask for a referral to a geriatrician (a specialist who focuses on the health care of elderly people) for a full evaluation.

#3 Bring in a Pro

If you feel overwhelmed or don’t have the time to help organize your parents’ move, let us do it for you. Our team can assess the level of care your parents need, navigate the application process, and help you prepare for the move. Our team often is especially useful if you don’t live in the same state as your parents and can’t manage the day-to-day aspects of the transition.

#4 Delaying Selling the Home

One way to reduce the emotional trauma of moving is to hold off on selling the family home. Moving is hard enough without asking your parents to live in a house that a realtor is showing to prospective buyers. If they have the assets to finance a move in the short run—or if you can lend them the deposit or entrance fee—the best plan of action is usually to move first and sell later.

#5 Read the Fine Print

Yes, those long contracts can be overwhelming, but don’t give in to the temptation to skim documents before signing (or asking your parents to do so). The contracts and agreements that come with moving into any kind of community will spell out the parameters of the care they will—or won’t—receive while they live in a community. It’s crucial you and your parents understand exactly what you’re agreeing to before putting pen to paper. At Arcadia Assisted Living, we are happy to answer any questions you may have regarding our move-in paperwork.

#6 Start Downsizing Now

Unless your parents already live in a small apartment or condo, they will have to let go of many furnishings and possessions to fit into a new, smaller space. Start downsizing and dealing with belongings as soon as possible to avoid moving day chaos. Organize a moving sale and/or sell items on Facebook Marketplace or Craig’s List. Also, consider contacting an estate liquidator, who can appraise, price and sell off the contents of your parents’ house.

The Dangers of Delaying the Conversation:

Are you the primary care taker? Family caretakers can get:

  • Exhausted
  • Ineffective as needs intensify and
  • Resentful when abilities do not match care needs.

Don’t delay the move to assisted living because the transitions seems insurmountable. When we ask our residents about the transition, most of the time they wished they’d did it sooner.

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Established in 2017, Arcadia Senior Living is a locally owned and operated Assisting Senior Living community focused on quality care, happy residents and purposeful living. Our team of healthcare professionals determines a care plan for each resident which is personalized to meet each resident’s unique needs. We understand how complicated and difficult a large transition can be and our staff is trained to inform and support a new resident’s entire family during this process. We believe in transparency and openly post services which have additional costs, update families on continuing evaluations of residents, and provide activities and programming designed to keep residents active and healthy.

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Braden Bills
6 months ago

My mom has been having a hard time living on her own, so we want to try and get her into assisted living. It makes sense that we would want to start by pointing out her needs that she needs help with! I can see how that could make her understand that we’re just trying to help her.

Russell Mortensen
6 months ago

It makes sense to get real professional medical advice when you are trying to figure out how to care for the elderly. My mom is getting older and needs to get medical attention throughout the day. I think it’s a great idea to reach out to some medical professionals that can help us narrow our search for assisted living situations.

Levi Armstrong
5 months ago

Thanks for telling me that choosing an assisted living community for a senior who has health problems is not only a personal decision but also a medical one, which is why you should ask for recommendations from the senior’s physician or a geriatrician. My mom was diagnosed with dementia a year ago, and her condition has been steadily decreasing since then. Right now, my wife and I can no longer take care of her properly so we’re planning to put her into an assisted living community soon. Perhaps I should follow your tip and talk to her physician to ask… Read more »

Bryson Owens
5 months ago

It’s interesting that you touched on moving to a senior community as a medical decision. My spouse and I are trying to help her parents get the home care they need right now because they are getting elderly. I think it’s a great idea to make a pros and cons list of all the assisted living situations in the area so that we choose the right one.

ellie davis
4 months ago

It’s interesting to know that a doctor can help you to decide if your senior will be better off living in an assisted living facility. My husband’s father has been struggling to move around, and we are looking for advice about how to help him. I will let him know about your recommendations to understand the benefits of assisted living to help him decide what is best for his father.